“The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other's life.”
- Richard Bach
When you have lost a parent, there are a few difficult dates to deal with and one of them is definitely father's or mother's day (depending on the parent). I think that it is easy to get lost in thinking about what you don't have rather than celebrating what you do still have. Although my father is gone, I still have several father figures in my life.
Many years ago, I met Mike and Scott and they changed the course of my life. Although I have a father all of my own, he was often absent or unavailable. In many ways, Mike and Scott (my two bosses) act as my two dads. In very different ways, they have played a very important part in helping me to become the woman that I am today. Mike's innovative spirit, generosity and humor guide me to reach for the stars when opportunity knocks. Scott's loving and methodical nature help to keep me grounded all of the rest of the time. Because of the two of them, I have enjoyed career opportunities that I never dreamed possible. Whether I am catching a plane to London, debuting a new book or appearing on television for jtv, it is only all possible because of their belief in my abilities. So, on this Father's Day, I want to send them a great big thank you for playing such an important part in my life. They both have a very special place in my heart.
My father-in-law and I have a lot in common. One of my favorite things that we have in common is that we both make things. He builds furniture and I make jewelry. We have been blessed to receive many wonderful pieces of furniture over the years from Joshua's father, but my very favorite is our wedding arbor. It is so unique, so special and thoughtfully designed. The bench can become a planting bin if we like. The whole thing can come apart for transportation if we need to move it. And, best of all, he put our wedding date and initials on the steel frame. But, more important than the furniture, I've asked Joshua's dad for fatherly advice on more than one occasion. It is nice to have someone in our lives who has such vast experience and knowledge in building and construction as well as master gardening and business. So, my father-in-law has also earned a special place in my heart and I am thankful that we get to spend some quality time with him this weekend.
So, on a holiday that has become somewhat difficult, now that my own father has passed on, I feel fortunate to still have others in my life that can give me guidance and support. This year, I choose to celebrate them in addition to thinking of my own father.